Often times when I am working with my clients we reach to a certain place and stop or get stuck if you may, then I have to ask: Who is going to take care of you now????
The hardships and pain we go through in life sometimes is unbearable and keeps us locked, going on and on with the same results for years. Unfortunately, in that place we keep repeating the same thoughts and behaviors hoping deep down that we get different results and someone would see us, acknowledge us or appreciate us.
If you did not get the love and acceptance that you crave growing up from parents or people around you, its ok to feel left alone, sad, inadequate, and rejected. Which consequently makes you crave appreciation and acknowledgment from outside of you. May be
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By achieving more and more, and the one you want his/her acceptance is not paying attention.
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Through the words of loved ones,
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or the recognition and praise of others,
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or through comparing yourself to others
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or even through indulging in negative emotions and judgments, which brings us more pain and sense of isolation.
Again, that is ok then, when you were younger. But now after growing and going through all what you had went through and after coming out sound and just right is not the way to go.
So I ask again: Who is going to take care of you ????
Sadly, I say You will not get what you crave from outside yourself no matter what you do and no matter how you fight or go into rage or blaming people or circumstances.
The only way out of this dilemma if I may say is just to take care of yourself. See yourself for who you really are, appreciate the strengths and embrace the weaknesses.
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Everyday Affirm yourself,
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Be kind to yourself,
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Use gentle loving self -talk,
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Be kind to the people even the ones you think they rejected you, or hurt you.
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Assure yourself that you deserve and it will be.
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Reflect on where you have been and where are you now, and admire the journey in between.